Herp derp realization of the day
May. 16th, 2010 04:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
But just in case anyone else missed it:
Bullies pick on people who fight back incompetently.
So damn obvious that I knew it, but I never brought it far enough forward in my consciousness to actually *articulate* it.
A bully needs you to get upset. A bully needs you to cry. A bully needs to ruin your day and suck the joy out of things you like just because you like them. A bully needs to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed or regretful.
They get off on it.
Yes, no? Yes but?
Bullies pick on people who fight back incompetently.
So damn obvious that I knew it, but I never brought it far enough forward in my consciousness to actually *articulate* it.
A bully needs you to get upset. A bully needs you to cry. A bully needs to ruin your day and suck the joy out of things you like just because you like them. A bully needs to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed or regretful.
They get off on it.
Yes, no? Yes but?